Honor and dignity have always been considered the main and respected human qualities. For the sake of their preservation, they fought in duels, they were proud, kept and protected like the apple of an eye. In the modern world, these concepts have faded a little into the background, however, to this day they are of great value. No wonder many are in a hurry to take advantage of this. We all know perfectly well that a word can kill a person. Moral humiliation is a kind of psychological weapon. With the help of it, you can carry out any manipulations and make a person get huge stress. Sometimes this is a good shake-up, and many deserve such an attitude even more. So, what is moral humiliation and what it is eaten with, this article will tell.
Moral humiliation of a person - what is its essence?
If we turn to dictionaries, then humiliation is a fall in a person's self-esteem in the eyes of others. It is done for various reasons. For example, with the aim of educating or self-affirmation of someone who has a similar impact. In almost all cases, it is accompanied by mental trauma and neurosis of the one who was humiliated. If we recall the famous pyramid of needs of Abraham Maslow, then dignity, as a human value and the need for respect and public recognition, is at the fourth, one of the most important, level. That is why, having experienced humiliation, the victim of such an impact subconsciously tries to avoid such treatment in the future. This serves as a great lesson for those who have high self-esteem, unhealthy selfishness and do not respect the opinions of others.
The most common cases of abuse of honor and dignity today are found among married couples. Equally, there are situations when a wife morally humiliates her husband, or, on the contrary, a husband morally humiliates his spouse. There is no point in dividing the so-called tyrants by gender. Humiliation here is a way to increase your self-esteem by lowering that of your partner. Why is this happening? It's all about the psyche of the one who affects his soul mate in such an unattractive way. These can be internal complexes, childhood grievances, a sense of their own failure, selfishness, tyrannical character, and many more reasons that came from childhood. By humiliating a partner, such a person feels his strength. He is, as it were, rehabilitated at the expense of his sacrifice and acquires a semblance of a sense of significance. In fact, this speaks of weakness and failure on the part of the humiliating person. And it is important to learn how to respond to such attacks in the direction of your person. The same applies to those who are not married, but have in the presence of a person whom they would very much like to put in their place at the expense of humiliation. So, let's look at examples of how to humiliate a person morally.
To begin with, a person can humiliate himself only if he is hurt for those properties that he himself defined as humiliating. In other words, you can humiliate a person by pointing out flaws, external or internal qualities that are easily criticized. For representatives of the two sexes, these qualities are different. It is important to have at least some information about the person whose dignity you want to hurt.
How to morally humiliate a man?
Here you need to act on the basis of general ideas about the strong field as such. What are men proud of? Their strength, beauty, muscles and of course belonging to the class of males. It is these qualities that need to be pressed. How can you morally humiliate a guy? Yes, it's elementary to ride on his fear of not being interesting to women, not wealthy in bed (everyone has this fear, regardless of age), or if they want to stand out among women. Remember that humiliation is something below the level of self-esteem. Determine the opinion of the person whom you are going to humiliate about yourself. The easiest way is to humiliate you with compromising evidence. But it is also the most difficult one. In any case, before you start humiliating, try to learn more about the person and his fears. If he is afraid that others will find out some information about him, then this information needs to be done. And of course, the more witnesses to your attack on your dignity, the stronger the feeling of humiliation will be.
How to insult a representative of the beautiful sex?
The same applies to the question of how to morally humiliate a girl. There are a number of features worth adding here. It is easier to humiliate a woman, because there are much more fears and unpleasant topics that almost everyone knows about in the case of the weaker sex. For example, the reason for humiliation can be overweight, appearance, IQ level, the girl's environment (especially if she is often seen in the company of men).
Regardless of the gender of the person being humiliated, it will be much easier to achieve the goal if the person to whom your victim is not indifferent is humiliating. The level of embarrassment and psychological attack on consciousness will be much more powerful. And don't forget about such important details as humor and sarcasm. Such an impact will not go unnoticed by others. Besides, being ridiculed in public is the worst of all forms of humiliation.
As an example of how you can morally humiliate the object of your irritation, we present several phrases: 
- Dry the herbarium!
Shut up, victim of a drunken midwife.
Oh yes, you cannot save the world with beauty!
Chao peach, ripen!
Yes, you could hide behind a teaspoon in the bath.
Yeah ... Not everyone was bypassed by Chernobyl.
You do the right thing by giggling. They don't laugh with teeth like that
I'd send you, but I see you from there
I bet you were conceived on a bet.
Such phrases are just an easy opportunity to touch a person for a living. But having understood their essence, you will already know how to humiliate a person morally. And do not forget the most important thing - by deciding to put a person in his place in such a tough way, according to criminal law, you run the risk of being punished with correctional labor for up to 6 months or a fine.
The problem of annoying conversationalists is extremely common. It can be an annoying admirer, just a familiar person, an unloved colleague or a "sworn" girlfriend. Many people try to enter into a verbal duel, responding to unpleasant words with swearing or even swearing. Perhaps this was the kind of reaction the instigator was seeking.
It would be much wiser and more promising to stop picking with words and try to come out victorious from such a situation. How beautiful is it to “send” a person without using abuse, “obscene” constructions? First of all, calm down and follow our recommendations.
Psychological science is skeptical about the desire of a person to rise by insulting other people, even if they bore him. A self-sufficient person is extremely difficult to offend, offend or humiliate.
The situation is such that a wise person will not take offense at truthful words, and will simply not pay attention to an obvious lie.
It is not for nothing that the word "send" is put in quotation marks, since we will not use any insults, let alone a three-story mat (even as an example). Humiliation, resentment and anger are the lot of a failed person, in whose emotional background negative feelings prevail, and disharmony reigns in the soul.
Our task is to respond culturally using psychological techniques.
Every day we come across dozens or even hundreds of bright individuals, so conflict situations happen quite often. How to politely and intelligently "send" a person? Experts suggest using psychological sambo - a kind of counterattack that uses the force (psychic energy) of the opponent.
And again - not a single person is able to offend, humiliate or offend the interlocutor if he treats himself with due respect.
They take offense at the truth (or half-truth), subconsciously trying on unpleasant words or insults. That is, we ourselves belittle our own dignity, emotionally reacting to unpleasant words.
Sometimes, when listening to an unpleasant or simply uninteresting speech of the interlocutor located opposite, the only question that worries you is how to “send” a person culturally?
I would like to resolve such a not very pleasant situation neatly, without humiliation, insults and swearing. Here are some simple tricks.
- Try changing the unpleasant subject by asking leading questions about a completely different object or person. If the other person is trying to return to the stated topic of the conversation, ask the questions in a sharper tone. However, it is better to refuse aggression.
- Laughter is a terrific "weapon" that can turn a situation in your favor. Use the full range of humor (sarcasm, banter) to reduce an unpleasant topic to a casual joke. In this way, you can end the annoying conversation and slide off the "favorite skate" of the interlocutor.
- Try to constantly give out the same unemotional reaction - "aha", "really", etc. You can just keep quiet. Not finding an interesting and grateful listener in your face, the annoying interlocutor with a high degree of probability will go to look for a new "victim".
In addition, before thinking about how to send a bored person, you need to understand that not all aggressors should be responded to in the same way. So, if rudeness comes from the boss or a work colleague, it is better not to provoke a conflict at all, but to try to stop it as soon as possible. Quarreling with your boss is not a good idea at all.
How beautiful to be nasty? Psychological sambo technique
Yes, the best way to "send" a person is to ignore him. But what if the unpleasant interlocutor does not lag behind, but only gets excited? In this case, the so-called psychological self-defense, or sambo, will help, which will not only protect a person from the consequences of an emotional attack (confusion, daze, confusion), but also allow you to get nasty (in our understanding, to repulse the offender).
If you do not know how to competently send an unpleasant person without a mate, then a psychological counterattack will buy time for gaining self-control, "restoring" acrimony and the ability to sharp answers.
So, psychological self-defense requires:
- the use of clear speech structures;
- communication using the correct intonation - for example, you need to communicate calmly, even coldly, thoughtfully or with a touch of slight sadness;
- thoroughness in the conversation, achieved by:
- maintaining pauses before the response;
- slowness in answering;
- not facing the offender, but in the other direction.
Thinking about how to politely send a guy or just a familiar person, without using insults, mate, the easiest way is to turn to psychological self-defense. Let's take a closer look at his most popular techniques.
Endless refinement
The use of such a technique involves posing a question - which means that the opponent will have to think, transfer the emotional charge into a rational, rational one. In addition, you will gain a little time, which the interlocutor will spend pondering the answer.
- This dress does not suit you at all?
- What exactly do you dislike about this dress? Which one would you recommend?
Remember to pause before responding and speak calmly, even a little distantly. It is likely that you don't even have to be rude.
External consent
This method of psychological counterattack involves agreement with the opponent's statement. You show that you paid attention to his words, agreed with the criticism, but in fact you simply disarmed the interlocutor. After all, he hoped that you would begin to be rude or angry.
Examples:
- You look just awful in these pants!
- Most likely, you are absolutely right.
- You're too self-confident!
- Yes, you're right, I'm cocky.
- You might not be late!
- Yes, I'll work on it.
External consent does not at all imply that you have changed your own position. However, after such "compromise" the aggressor usually retreats and even changes his attitude towards you. And you no longer need to figure out how to send an unpleasant person without swearing and swearing.
Spoiled plate
This technique is based on a curious technique - you repeat the same verbal construction in response to a rudeness or just an annoying request. It is extremely important to come up with a phrase correctly so that it can be repeated over and over again without disrupting the flow of the conversation.
- Only you can help me fulfill this report!
- But nobody wants to help me!
- Sorry, I'm extremely busy today.
- And what should I do now? I was hoping for you!
- Sorry, I'm extremely busy today.
When using this psychological sambo technique, one should not be distracted by other topics. In addition, you need to communicate with a person in the same calm, sad tone. Irritability or sarcasm is not acceptable.
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This technique is based on your unpreparedness for the act or actions that the manipulator requires of you, because this is contrary (supposedly) to your beliefs.
Thus, you knock the ground from under the feet of the offender, because you react in a completely different way than he expected of you.
- Why do you wear black clothes all the time?
- You see, this is my peculiarity, a highlight.
- You are so strange ...
- It's just that I have already come to terms with my weirdness, besides, they allow me to stand out from the crowd.
Always remember that rudeness and insults are almost inevitable. Friends or even strangers often prefer to throw out their negativity on others, so you should be prepared for any development of events.
Do not forget that you can get out of almost every unpleasant situation with your head held high, and you can repulse the aggressor through humor, calmness or psychological self-defense.
Hello, I am Nadezhda Plotnikova. Having successfully completed her studies at SUSU as a special psychologist, she devoted several years to working with children with developmental problems and consulting parents on raising babies. I use the experience gained, including in the creation of articles of a psychological orientation. Of course, in no way do I pretend to be the ultimate truth, but I hope that my articles will help dear readers to deal with any difficulties.
Initially, the article was not conceived as a tutorial for losers: insulted, humiliated and offended, who secretly or openly feel sorry for themselves and hate other people, want to take revenge on "everyone" and find out how to humiliate, offend, "send" a person in words, preferably culturally, intelligently and beautifully, without swearing.
It is impossible to humiliate, insult and offend (“send”) a person who is wise and harmonious in his soul, because they do not take offense at the truth, and the lie does not deserve attention.
This article is still about how to use a psychological counterattack ( psychological judo, aikido or sambo if you like), i.e. how to resist insults and humiliations, rudeness and offensive words, how to react (or not) and how to respond correctly, culturally and beautifully, naturally, with words without swearing, to those people with an understated I-position who want to humiliate, offend, offend you ... (that is, they want to exalt themselves, by humiliating you - they, to put it mildly, without harmony in their souls - they were also humiliated earlier by someone, someone who was stronger than them and to whom they could not correctly answer insults and humiliations, keeping insults in their souls, and now, working them off, they take revenge on others - do not be like them ..., learn conflict-free communication ... read this article carefully).
Remember! No one can humiliate, offend or offend a person with words - only he himself, subconsciously interpreting the conflict situation not in his favor. What beliefs and ideas you have inherent about yourself, this is how you are ... and no offensive, insulting and derogatory words can belittle you ... that is. you belittle yourself by paying attention to the other person's bad words ...
The power of words, or how to "humiliate", "offend", "offend" ("send") a person with words without a mat
Words in the query how to "humiliate", "offend" and "offend" ("send") a person are enclosed in quotation marks because in fact, we will neither humiliate, nor offend, nor offend anyone ... "send" - we will not either - this is the lot of losers with a negative life scenario and disharmony in the psyche (soul), in which grievances and other negative emotions are accumulated, bursting out in the form of revenge.
These words are used in the article only because there are too many similar queries on the Internet, i.e. a huge number of people have accumulated grievances in themselves and want to take them out (work out), and without realizing this, drive themselves into a vicious circle of aggression and conflicts, primarily on themselves and with themselves, which will ultimately have an extremely negative effect not only on relationships with other people, but also on their own mental health, and throughout life in general ...
With all this, many want to humiliate, offend and offend a person, “send” him, a man or a woman, a guy or a girl cleverly, beautifully, even culturally, and, of course, without obscenities ... (apparently, it still “breaks out” ...) ... Those. an illusory goal - to get "pleasure", "gloat", to laugh at a humiliated and offended person who was confused, confused and fell into a stupor at the moment of a psychological counterattack on him - to feel displaced - while not upsetting his moral convictions (“without mata "), and even having amused them (" cleverly "," culturally "," beautifully "...).
However, these people do not understand or do not realize that not every laughter prolongs life, and that they will not in any way exalt themselves by humiliating and insulting another ... that they, in fact, will become the same as the one whom they offend, that is, ... disharmonious personalities with an understated life position.
And as you know, everything in the world returns to normal (as to this person whom you insulted and humiliated - you “returned”, and you “will return”, if not he, then someone else - this is the nature of life).
How to morally "humiliate" a person with clever words without swearing
Insults, offensive and derogatory words are often perceived as psychological pressure on a person, and therefore as stress. It is known that negative perception of stress (not stress itself) noticeably lowers a person's intelligence (IQ), and with it rational memory along with vocabulary, so some people start to swear - a few words, but how many meanings ... and most importantly - emotions ...
Therefore, to morally "humiliate" a person with clever words without swearing, first of all, you need to learn how to quickly relieve stress, or calmly relate to it.
And if at the moment of a psychological attack on you you remain unperturbed, do not fall into confusion, stupor and stress, feeling like a "victim" of an emotional attack, then you will retain your intellect and the acquired knowledge about conflict-free communication and methods of psychological counterattack will "emerge." .e. you can calmly, intelligently, culturally and beautifully morally “humiliate” a person with clever words without obscenities and unnecessary emotions.
How to "insult" a person so that he would be silent, without a mat
It often happens in a conflict situation that the opponent constantly says and says something abusive, insulting and derogatory, with appropriate gestures, increased tone, and facial expression, i.e. exerts psychological pressure, which often leads to stress.
Of course, many people want to know how to "insult" a person to shut up(shut up).
Because a conflict or pre-conflict situation presupposes a dialogue, i.e. alternating conversation of two or more people, then the methods of psychological counterattack will come in handy here (some psychotherapists and psychoanalysts call this psychological judo, aikido and even sambo).
The essence of the psychological counterattack(psychological sambo - self-defense without weapons), as in ordinary, physical martial arts, is the use of the opponent's force against himself, with a minimum expenditure of his strength, in this context, mental energy, and not literally offending a person so that he would shut up.
Those. here one must first “succumb”, as it were, “humiliate”, “be offended”, in order to then inflict a psychological counterstrike. But not in order for your opponent to lose and fail, but in order for both to “win” - otherwise, as mentioned above, everything will return to normal.
For example, if heavy, wet snow presses on a branch, "wanting" to break it, then the branch does not oppose directly, does not resist, wasting its strength - it bends, as if humiliated ... yields down, and the snow under its own weight ("force") slides off it and does not break the branch.
Also, a sambist, with physical pressure (attack) on him, uses the inertial force of the opponent, using a technique, throws him over himself and drops to the ground, while practically not wasting his strength.
Very similar techniques and techniques are used in psychological sambo (psychological counterattack), i.e. in case of an emotional and psychological attack on you (insult, humiliation, offensive words ...), you need, as a sambist, not to resist and resist directly, but, on the contrary, to succumb, as if to “humiliate”, thereby unbalancing your opponent and introducing him into confusion, into a dead end ... (and then he, you can say "your" - control this person and manipulate him as you want) ...
But not for the sake of revenge and gloating over the "offended" enemy, but for the sake of justice, balance (congruence) in relationships, and, possibly, for cooperation (to the brink of compromise) and a way out of a conflict situation.
How to "offend" a person with words
The phrase how to "offend" a person with words, as you already understood, we will use it in the context of psychological self-defense (sambo), without exceeding its limits ...
Remember! Each person is responsible for his thoughts, emotions and behavior, and each mentally healthy person can control his negative feelings, such as resentment, irritation, anger, and the corresponding behavior in the form of defensive aggression, including verbal (verbal) ...
This is easy to check, for example, if the husband is angry and insulting, offending his wife - he seems to be unable to contain his anger - "bullshit" ... firstly, it is simply initially weaker, and secondly, it allows itself to offend. Most likely, this aggressive husband will hold back the same anger in front of his superiors or the police - they are stronger for him and will not allow himself to be offended - the husband understands this, which means he controls the situation ...
However, a subconscious desire to get rid of internal negatives gives rise to such a defensive reaction of the psyche as "Displacement" ("Moving"), which can be expressed in "vicious circle" anger and aggression.
For example, the boss "offended" the husband ... the husband, in order to work out the negative, can offend his wife with words and behavior ... she, in turn, will offend the child ... and he will offend the child ... the dog will go for a walk, and there ... the husband's boss - she is his , for some reason, will bite ... (this again means that everything in life returns to normal) ...
Therefore, instead of literally offending a person with words, you can use the techniques of psychological counterattack (sambo), even if in front of you a boss or another person is obviously stronger than you ...
(Twine the ropes it is possible from a strict boss and from a despotic husband, and from a tyrant parent ... but we are not talking about that ... we are talking about psychological self-defense ...).
How beautiful and culturally "send" a person, without a mat
How sometimes you want to “send” (you know where) an annoying partner, an obsessive client, an annoying boyfriend, a stubborn friend, an overly demanding boss, an eternally dissatisfied subordinate ... or another person. But the internal "moral code" and the external "administrative" force to restrain and suggest thinking, how to "send" a person without a mat, beautiful and cultural.
To understand how to send a person culturally, in the context of psychological self-defense, i.e. literally without offending, not insulting or humiliating him (otherwise he will take revenge later ... maybe not you ... remember about his own circles?), you need to proceed from who is in front of us and what result we want from interaction with a counterpart.
So, how beautiful it is to "send" a person, based on who is in front of us and what we want from him:
- If this is a boss, then we want from him ... probably ... to be less demanding and critical ... or maybe a salary increase ... or the implementation of our idea ...
- If this is a subordinate, then, on the contrary, so that he works better and fulfills his duties ... he does not "beg" for an increase in salary and in the service ...
- If this is a partner in business (business), then, probably, good, trusting and honest cooperation, without "pulling the blanket" over yourself ...
- If this is a compulsive girl or boyfriend, then to "fuck off (a)" ...
- If a friend, then not only listen and hear yourself, but others as well ...
- If this is too strict or overprotective parent, then he began to understand his teenage child ...
- And if this is a child, ours or whom we are raising, teaching, then so that he is obedient and diligent, probably ...
- If this is a seller, then so that “the leftist doesn’t push” ...
- If a client or a buyer, then to buy a product or service ...
Many different people we meet in life, many and different, including conflict situations can arise in interaction with these people. Our task is not to humiliate and insult a person, with or without obscenities, but to respond correctly and wisely (psychologically counterattack) without harming ourselves and him ...
To clearly and automatically master these "psychological sambo" techniques, training (practice) is necessary, as in ordinary martial arts ... otherwise, even knowing how to answer, but entering stress and confusion in a specific conflict situation, you will simply be confused and forget all your knowledge - you need skills, and practice gives them and practice again ...
Further, you will learn in PRACTICE (with examples from life) how to intelligently and beautifully respond to insult, rudeness, rudeness and humiliation with the help of techniques and techniques of psychological self-defense (counterattack) - this is a continuation of this article ...
From this helpful article, you will learn about how to humiliate a person with clever words without using your fists.
It is a sin to offend a good person, remember this.
For any humiliation of an innocent, you will have to pay with punishment from above.
But there are often cases when you are smeared on the wall, uttering obscene phrases.
Of course, you can answer the offender in the same way or hit him in the teeth with all his might.
But this is not a very delicate method, my friends.
It is much more difficult to humiliate a person without putting him on his shoulder blades, but choosing such phrases so that they, in a moral sense, destroy him.
This is what we're going to do.
Phrases that humiliate a person for insulting his dignity
If your dignity is questioned - it doesn't matter who you are - a man or a woman, try to answer with these phraseological units:
1). A woman can only be insulted by a moral impotent person or a being who has been deprived of life.
2). You are now throwing insults because you stubbornly hide your own failure.
3). My dignity is not up to par, but it is not at the bottom either. And you betray yourself as a weak and morally wretched person.
4). Your insults sound like a helpless attempt to prove your superiority.
With these phrases, you humiliate a person carefully and delicately. By intelligently lowering it, you yourself do not become like an evil offender.
Phrases that morally kill a person for humiliation
I want to warn you right away that they should be used with deep caution. The thing is that you are endowed with the ability to program a person for negative consequences. His payment for the offense caused to you will be an unfortunate event that will occur in close connection with the verbal “prophecy”.
Not entirely clear?
Now you will understand everything.
Examples of phrases that morally kill and fatally program the offender into "eternal memory":
5). I will not answer you anything. But then you will understand that you have made all the misfortunes from that day.
6). The line to the oncologist is very long, and you will stand at the end. (Use these words only in the case of severe humiliation.)
7). Everything in this life will have to pay. Do not forget this day, so that later you do not think for what God punished you.
eight). From this moment, misfortunes will begin in your life. I'm not afraid, but I know about it.
Having a little fantasized, you can pretty much supplement the proposed list.
Just do not go too far and do not program a good person for bad fatalism.
It is quite possible that you were humiliated by a rather suspicious and weak personality, which will begin to fade away after all that has been said.
Now you know that how to morally humiliate a person with clever phrases.
And do not forget yourself that you will have to pay for a word as well as for a bad deed.
The material was prepared by me- Edwin Vostryakovsky.
Now you can beautifully, and most importantly, subtly pin your opponent in an argument using one of these expressions.
Only aristocrats and people with a fair sense of humor and imagination can insult so beautifully.
So,
How beautiful it is to offend the interlocutor.
Any similarity between you and the person is purely coincidental!- Are you always that stupid, or is today a special occasion?
- As an outsider, what do you think of the human race?
- I'd like to kick you in the teeth, but why should I improve your appearance?
- There is at least one positive thing in your body. It's not as scary as your face!
- The brain is not everything. And in your case, he is nothing!
- Careful, don't let your brain get into your head!
- I like you. They say I have a disgusting taste, but I love you.
- Have your parents ever asked you to run away from home?
- If I had a face like yours. I would sue my parents!
- Don't be upset. A lot of people don't have talent either!
- Do not be offended, but do you have a job to spread ignorance?
- Keep talking, someday you will still be able to say something clever!
- Do you still love nature despite what she has done to you?
- I don’t think so, maybe you have a sprain!
- Fellows like you do not grow on trees, they hesitate there.
- He has a mechanical mind. This is bad for him, he often forgets to turn his back to the wind.
- His mind is like a steel trap that always slams when trying to find the answer!
- You are a man of the earth, it’s bad that you’re not the best part of it.
- He wondered - this is something new.
- When it finally gets dark, you will surely look your best!
- You're just a miracle comedian. If it's funny, it's a miracle!
- In the book "Who's Who" you should be looked for as What is It?
- You are living proof that a person can live without brains!
- It is so short that when it rains, he is always the last to know.
- You're just a template for building an idiot.
- Why are you here? I thought the zoo was closing for the night!
- How did you get here? Did someone leave the cage open?
- Don't try to find anything in your head, it's empty.
- I think you wouldn't want to feel the way you look!
- Hey! I am human! What do you?
- I can't talk to you right now, tell me where will you be in 10 years?
- I don't want you to turn the other cheek, it's just ugly.
- I don’t know who you are, but it would be better if you weren’t there, I’m sure everyone will agree with me.
- I don't know what makes you stupid, but it does work.
- I can kick the monkey out of you, but it will be very expensive for you!
- I can’t remember your name and please don’t help me with this!
- I don't even like the people you are trying to copy.
- I know you were born stupid, but why are you having a relapse?
- I know you made yourself. It's good that you admit your guilt!
- I know you are not as stupid as you look. This is impossible!
- I saw people like you, but then I had to pay for the ticket!
- Why are you such a fool today? Although I think this is typical for you.
By using these insults, you take responsibility for your words.